In my last post I discussed why, as adults, we still fear our narcissistic parents. I wrote about how one way to get through this fear is to get angry at your parent.
But what if you can’t get angry? Or what if the anger doesn’t burn away all your fear?
Then it becomes time to face your fear and work through it. Only by allowing ourselves to confront our fears can we truly be free of them.
Here is how you work through your fear.
Ask, What Am I Afraid Of?
The fear we feel when we’re afraid of something tends to be a generalized fear. For instance we may feel fear when we think of having contact with our narcissistic parent. That fear fills us and our mind stays locked in fear mode. Continue reading
As an adult child of narcissistic parents, it is completely normal for you to live in a constant state of fear. Even though you are free of your narcissistic parent, you may still be afraid of them.
You may feel that if you perform some slight—either real or perceived—that there will be shell to pay and retribution. Maybe you receiving a fear punishment from your parent. This fear can be that she still can punish you as she did when you were a child. Or maybe she has some hold over you, perhaps financial, where she can take something away that you need.
Perhaps you fear she may verbally attack you in some way as she did when you were an adolescent. You may simply still fear his disapproval. She conditioned you to want to please her. And even though you’re an adult, that need to please is still here. So you are afraid you’ll do something that she will disprove of. Continue reading