Narcissistic parents don’t value children for the pure joy of having a child. No. They look at children as mirrors to reflect their false image of being exceptional, grandiose, and omniscient.
Children, to the narcissist, are like kegs of narcissistic supply. You tap them when you need to quench your thirst for attention and admiration, stashing them away when you go to drink somewhere else.
Narcissistic fathers only spend time with their children when it will fulfill some narcissistic need. As a kid, you catch on quickly and learn not to say to your dad, “Hey, you want to help me build this model?” He’d just stare as if you asked him to help you rob a bank. With a disgusted shake of his head, he’d go back to watching golf on TV. Continue reading
We all, at any age, like to think that our parents love and treasure us. We also like to think they will be there to support us if we have problems or are in need of assistance.
As much as this might hurt to read, none of the above is true for the adult child of a narcissistic parent.
You already know that your parent is not like other parents. Your parent is self-absorbed, talks about themselves in grandiose terms, and is overly critical. You may have come to accept it.
What you may not have come to accept is your parent’s limitations when it comes to loving others, even you. But coming to accept your parent’s limitations in this area will take your further down the road of healing.
Therefore, it’s vital that we explore this painful topic. Continue reading